So Jaden & Willow Smith have been philosophizing about life. Willow says time is not real. I know some people who believe her though my aging body say it is real. However, It reminds me of my college days when we sat around and talk about the world as it turned. Gosh do I miss those days of thought euphoria. I continued to go to school for a long time because I loved the place. I realize that these two young adults have a privilege that is not available to many kids. They have lived a life of privilege no doubt. And I love the parenting style of their parents – allowing them as much freedom as they can handle. Unlike many, I see the kids as free thinkers and unencumbered by stifling social norms.
I remember I had an employee, black female, who was really good friends with another employee, a white male. They got along really really well. It was hard to not notice the chemistry. The black female was very methodical and operated within societal norms. She wore her hair plain. She wore the in-style conservative jeans. She wore a hint of lip gloss. She did her work. She never did anything even slightly spontaneous. And we knew she would never venture outside of her world to be open enough to dating this white guy. I was sad when I learned a couple of years ago she died of cancer.
I have a son. He is unique. As we are planning to see my mother in a couple of weeks I am growing concerned about this encounter. Josiah loves to climb, boy stuff. He is active, boys stuff. But he also likes art and dolls, girl stuff. I didn’t tell him to like dolls. One day we passed the leftover toy box at church and he picked up the doll and it’s been first love every since. He is still in love with his toddler hat and will wear it in the summer, strings and all. And he will wear his rain boots in the garden and through the house. He has claimed my red scarf as his own. And he shows compassion freely and openly. And I know he’s different. And I want for him what I want for every kid including Jaden and Willow, a receptiveness on the part of society to give them enough room to be authentically self.